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Post by Admin on Sept 28, 2020 17:44:18 GMT
How to Successfully Stop Playing the Blame Game By Dominica Applegate Aug 30 2016 www.soberrecovery.com/recovery/how-to-successfully-stop-playing-the-blame-game/Now that you’re in recovery, you are faced with the blame game dilemma—a new phase where you can either accept responsibility for your entire life or keep pointing fingers at others for how things turned out. Perhaps you blame your parents because studies have shown that addictive behaviors are genetic, but that’s still not a free pass for you to stay addicted. Maybe you blame your friends for introducing you to partying, but you were the one who decided to put substances in your body. You also made the choice to continue using so really, you have no one else to blame but yourself. In the beginning of any recovery plan, an addict goes through an array of emotions like anger, resentment, pity, loneliness, helplessness, and so on. To finally get off the blame train, the person in recovery must take the following steps. 1. Become accountable Now that you have taken the first step to recovery with admission that you have an addiction. It is time to step up and be held accountable. Ultimately, you must admit that it’s no one’s fault other than your own. This is an important step in your recovery plan, as it empowers you to make the necessary changes you need to make in your life. When you blame others, you give them that power, which can really stifle growth. 2. Tell the truth. Tell yourself and others that you are taking full responsibility for your entire life now. You’re not blaming anyone else no matter what the past has been like. This may be difficult, but in order to grow successfully on your journey, it is a must. 3. Start a journal. Writing down your thoughts and feelings tends to help relieve some of the negativity going on in your mind and body. Every time you have a thought or make a comment that shifts the blame of your addiction onto others, or outside influences, write them down. Then, take a few moments to think of how you could have made that statement, or expressed that feeling without placing blame elsewhere. Write them down alongside the negative statements. 4. Practice good self-care. Take responsibility for life by taking care of your mind, body, and spirit. Maintain good personal hygiene, start an exercise program, choose healthy eating habits, pray or meditate, and continue your counseling sessions. Honesty is the key for you to fully move forward. Remembering that you are the individual who led you to this addiction reinforces that you have always been in control of your own life. Now that you’ve made the decision to admit that you have a problem, you’re able to drive your life towards a successful recovery. If you or someone you know is seeking help for behavioral, alcohol or drug addiction, please visit our directory of treatment centers or call 866-606-0182 to start on the path to recovery today.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 28, 2020 18:46:47 GMT
How to Successfully Stop Playing the Blame Game By Dominica Applegate Aug 30 2016 www.soberrecovery.com/recovery/how-to-successfully-stop-playing-the-blame-game/Now that you’re in recovery, you are faced with the blame game dilemma—a new phase where you can either accept responsibility for your entire life or keep pointing fingers at others for how things turned out. Perhaps you blame your parents because studies have shown that addictive behaviors are genetic, but that’s still not a free pass for you to stay addicted. Maybe you blame your friends for introducing you to partying, but you were the one who decided to put substances in your body. You also made the choice to continue using so really, you have no one else to blame but yourself. In the beginning of any recovery plan, an addict goes through an array of emotions like anger, resentment, pity, loneliness, helplessness, and so on. To finally get off the blame train, the person in recovery must take the following steps. 1. Become accountable Now that you have taken the first step to recovery with admission that you have an addiction. It is time to step up and be held accountable. Ultimately, you must admit that it’s no one’s fault other than your own. This is an important step in your recovery plan, as it empowers you to make the necessary changes you need to make in your life. When you blame others, you give them that power, which can really stifle growth. 2. Tell the truth. Tell yourself and others that you are taking full responsibility for your entire life now. You’re not blaming anyone else no matter what the past has been like. This may be difficult, but in order to grow successfully on your journey, it is a must. 3. Start a journal. Writing down your thoughts and feelings tends to help relieve some of the negativity going on in your mind and body. Every time you have a thought or make a comment that shifts the blame of your addiction onto others, or outside influences, write them down. Then, take a few moments to think of how you could have made that statement, or expressed that feeling without placing blame elsewhere. Write them down alongside the negative statements. 4. Practice good self-care. Take responsibility for life by taking care of your mind, body, and spirit. Maintain good personal hygiene, start an exercise program, choose healthy eating habits, pray or meditate, and continue your counseling sessions. Honesty is the key for you to fully move forward. Remembering that you are the individual who led you to this addiction reinforces that you have always been in control of your own life. Now that you’ve made the decision to admit that you have a problem, you’re able to drive your life towards a successful recovery. If you or someone you know is seeking help for behavioral, alcohol or drug addiction, please visit our directory of treatment centers or call 866-606-0182 to start on the path to recovery today. This could apply to mental illness as well. I shouldn't have developed unhealthy coping skills to deal with bullying at school, and I should have stood up for myself. I should have told someone about my mental health problems before it took hold. And yet people say my illness is no one's fault, so if I had coped with the bullying by drinking and becoming an alcoholic, it would have been my fault?
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Post by Admin on Sept 28, 2020 19:16:55 GMT
This could apply to mental illness as well. I shouldn't have developed unhealthy coping skills to deal with bullying at school, and I should have stood up for myself. I should have told someone about my mental health problems before it took hold. And yet people say my illness is no one's fault, so if I had coped with the bullying by drinking and becoming an alcoholic, it would have been my fault? So many different perspectives / opinions / controversies on mental health & everything that it's related to. i think it's infinitely complex with it all. The best i think to do is to let go of all blame & practice forgiveness of self & others. Probably far better to take in ways a scientific / biomedical / psychiatric view that mental illnesses & everything connected to it all is no fault illness & to focus on how best to help & support people who are unwell & suffering - regardless of their difficulties. But then all the arguments / debates / politics / social realities come into it all. i've had all these blame game mind loops & issues in my own life with suffering dual diagnosis (addiction & schizophrenia), & with everything that has gone around it all, & all the different judgements, opinions, theories, & arguments around it all. It's maddening in itself.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 28, 2020 19:58:30 GMT
This could apply to mental illness as well. I shouldn't have developed unhealthy coping skills to deal with bullying at school, and I should have stood up for myself. I should have told someone about my mental health problems before it took hold. And yet people say my illness is no one's fault, so if I had coped with the bullying by drinking and becoming an alcoholic, it would have been my fault? But then all the arguments / debates / politics / social realities come into it all. i've had all these blame game mind loops & issues in my own life with suffering dual diagnosis (addiction & schizophrenia), & with everything that has gone around it all, & all the different judgements, opinions, theories, & arguments around it all. It's maddening in itself. This is it, and is the same for anything. People from poorer backgrounds are more affected by mh and addiction, and that's not because they are inherently more prone to it. That doesn't mean they can't overcome it, but your environment is a factor. I think is better to focus on recovering rather than apportioning blame. And if you do take the full burden of responsibility you might beat yourself up about it more than is necessary. The only thing people need to focus on taking responsibility for is their recovery, rather than any perceived shortcomings that led to their addiction. Focus on the future rather than the past, and on what you can change rather than what you can't.
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Post by Admin on Sept 29, 2020 9:58:43 GMT
This is it, and is the same for anything. People from poorer backgrounds are more affected by mh and addiction, and that's not because they are inherently more prone to it. That doesn't mean they can't overcome it, but your environment is a factor. I think is better to focus on recovering rather than apportioning blame. And if you do take the full burden of responsibility you might beat yourself up about it more than is necessary. The only thing people need to focus on taking responsibility for is their recovery, rather than any perceived shortcomings that led to their addiction. Focus on the future rather than the past, and on what you can change rather than what you can't. Thanks. i suppose part of the issue i have from a more biomedical / psychiatric perspective / opinion around the schizophrenia diagnosis - is how do i recover from an incurable structural / functional brain condition?
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Post by Deleted on Sept 29, 2020 12:09:23 GMT
This is it, and is the same for anything. People from poorer backgrounds are more affected by mh and addiction, and that's not because they are inherently more prone to it. That doesn't mean they can't overcome it, but your environment is a factor. I think is better to focus on recovering rather than apportioning blame. And if you do take the full burden of responsibility you might beat yourself up about it more than is necessary. The only thing people need to focus on taking responsibility for is their recovery, rather than any perceived shortcomings that led to their addiction. Focus on the future rather than the past, and on what you can change rather than what you can't. Thanks. i suppose part of the issue i have from a more biomedical / psychiatric perspective / opinion around the schizophrenia diagnosis - is how do i recover from an incurable structural / functional brain condition? Well nowadays you own your own recovery, apparently. Recovery is a personal thing, according to many who are in the recovery movement. Is not really seen as being cured of all the symptoms and problems the illness causes or is said to cause. I'm not sure what I think of this. The first thing I noticed was the patronising voice. But this is what they call recovery at the Scottish Recovery Network.
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Post by Admin on Sept 29, 2020 12:13:38 GMT
Thanks. i suppose part of the issue i have from a more biomedical / psychiatric perspective / opinion around the schizophrenia diagnosis - is how do i recover from an incurable structural / functional brain condition? Well nowadays you own your own recovery, apparently. Recovery is a personal thing, according to many who are in the recovery movement. Is not really seen as being cured of all the symptoms and problems the illness causes or is said to cause. I'm not sure what I think of this. The first thing I noticed was the patronising voice. But this is what they call recovery at the Scottish Recovery Network. i'm getting more & more like Rambo with it all in ways.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 29, 2020 12:30:49 GMT
Well nowadays you own your own recovery, apparently. Recovery is a personal thing, according to many who are in the recovery movement. Is not really seen as being cured of all the symptoms and problems the illness causes or is said to cause. I'm not sure what I think of this. The first thing I noticed was the patronising voice. But this is what they call recovery at the Scottish Recovery Network. i'm getting more & more like Rambo with it all in ways. I can see why, as declaring yourself 'recovered', even though you have symptoms, is likely to get you pushed into work and make you 'unrecovered' again. Is a nice thought and would like to think the Recovery movement mean well but the state will use anything to get people off benefits.. even when they are anything but 'fit for work'. Realistically a psychiatrist would tell you you have no chance of recovery, but that can also make people feel stuck and demotivates them to try and improve in any way they can.
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Post by Admin on Sept 29, 2020 13:34:22 GMT
i'm getting more & more like Rambo with it all in ways. I can see why, as declaring yourself 'recovered', even though you have symptoms, is likely to get you pushed into work and make you 'unrecovered' again. Is a nice thought and would like to think the Recovery movement mean well but the state will use anything to get people off benefits.. even when they are anything but 'fit for work'. Realistically a psychiatrist would tell you you have no chance of recovery, but that can also make people feel stuck and demotivates them to try and improve in any way they can. For all the debate / arguments / opinions / theories - & i fully agree that mental health treatment needs to be a lot better & the spiritual fully acknowledged - for 15 years i do pragmatically accept my schizophrenia diagnosis / condition & medication. However it all appears to cause a lot of conflict & argument in doing that as well. i just mean in general. The anti / pro psychiatry / pharma war & what everything is & how best to treat people does seem to be a major issue & area of contention with a lot of people. But then it always has been highly controversial i just think people should be treated a lot better that go through all this stuff. But that seems to involve a lot of highly complex areas, debate & argument - & go into all the social / cultural / legal & medical systems Socioeconomic / political argument. A hard right Tory Government in the UK has killed 250 thousand of the most vulnerable over the past 10 years & society / the system as a whole seem happy to kill off as many poor, sick & disabled as possible. We seem to be headed into increasing Global ecological / 'civilization' collapse & headed into Global Fascism / Authoritarianism - & moving very fast away from the Rule of Law / International Law - Genuine Democracy & adherence to Universal Human Rights. Yes in some more ideal World / society / system with wonderful, appropriate, comprehensive treatment with everything seen in genuinely integral terms & treated as potentially transformative healing crisis it would all be a lot better - But that's not the realities of the society / system we live in. i understand where some people are coming from with it all - it needs a genuine change to the wider society / system as to how people like us are treated. i don't know how to make the wider society / system see it all differently & to genuinely care enough about it all to change / transform the treatment of the 'mentally ill' & all the areas that this goes into? Was having a heated argument with someone this morning about me accepting my schizophrenia diagnosis & medication. i think we're a long way off all these areas being properly sorted out
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Post by Admin on Sept 29, 2020 14:39:03 GMT
i'm getting more & more like Rambo with it all in ways. I can see why, as declaring yourself 'recovered', even though you have symptoms, is likely to get you pushed into work and make you 'unrecovered' again. Is a nice thought and would like to think the Recovery movement mean well but the state will use anything to get people off benefits.. even when they are anything but 'fit for work'. Realistically a psychiatrist would tell you you have no chance of recovery, but that can also make people feel stuck and demotivates them to try and improve in any way they can. & who / what am i in all this? i have been told that i am a fully Enlightened Master Healer, Warrior Shaman, Powerful Mystic, Arcturian Star Seed, Light Worker, Magician Or a Demon possessed, psychopath, personality disordered, addict, schizophrenic, black magick Devil Worshipping criminal - all things that i have been equally accused of as well.
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Post by Admin on Sept 29, 2020 14:45:28 GMT
i don't categorically know who i am? i tend to the view that we are spiritual Beings / incarnated souls having a human experience - i just try my best to be kind & peaceful, of service to others / life & try my best to be a decent person.
i think i do have a long term / severe mental illness
The schizophrenia diagnosis does make sense to me on one level
But then of course it goes into all the controversy / debate about psychiatry, labelling theory & what all these experiences / conditions really are.
i wonder if there is any point in taking any one opinion / position over another on anything - or seeing anything as 'good & bad' - it all just is.
“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I'll meet you there.
When the soul lies down in that grass the world is too full to talk about.”
― Rumi
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Post by Deleted on Sept 29, 2020 16:33:19 GMT
i don't categorically know who i am? i tend to the view that we are spiritual Beings / incarnated souls having a human experience - i just try my best to be kind & peaceful, of service to others / life & try my best to be a decent person. i think i do have a long term / severe mental illness The schizophrenia diagnosis does make sense to me on one level But then of course it goes into all the controversy / debate about psychiatry, labelling theory & what all these experiences / conditions really are. i wonder if there is any point in taking any one opinion / position over another on anything - or seeing anything as 'good & bad' - it all just is. “Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I'll meet you there. When the soul lies down in that grass the world is too full to talk about.” ― Rumi I don't know who I am either Admin. I've been called a psychopath and personality disordered, the latest one is that I am a man trying to harass women online, which did make me laugh at the time. Plenty of armchair psychiatrists out there but it's only a problem when you start to believe all the negative stuff yourself and it affects your health. A lot of people, especially online, have their own mh issues, and other things going on that make them say what they do. No one is perfect. People believe what they want to believe, is all I can say. Everyone has an opinion, but opinions are not really much use - there are facts, and then points of view. The fact is you are suffering and you need a psychiatric diagnosis to exist, to receive money from the state to live. Probably best to stick with practical realities first and everything else is secondary. Because without facts and some kind of consensus reality you're just left with opinions that it's currently probably impossible to categorically prove are correct or incorrect. You know you can't live without the medication, for whatever reason. You can't change the past, and there are plenty of what ifs we can all ponder on, but if we can't do anything about the what ifs, and the moment to test them out is gone, all that we have left is the now and the future. I have had to do this with the meds I am on now, I am pretty sure if I had tried harder earlier on and come off them years ago I might not be dependent on them now, and I certainly wouldn't have agreed to take antipsychotics for a neurotic disorder. I just have to accept that am dependent on antipsychotics now, even if I should never have been on them in the first place, and have to accept my part in that, as the article above seems to be encouraging. It certainly isn't all my fault that I am stuck on them either, but I can't deny my life choices have something to do with it. Can't keep going over it though, just have to move on and educating yourself more on all the perspectives is helpful, but is probably not best to argue about it with others online; what is best is to educate others on the full picture re drugs and every other treatment going, which is what you do on here with the forum. Presenting the established facts is best; let others come to their own conclusions, as everyone is different and reacts differently to treatments anyway.
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Post by Admin on Sept 29, 2020 17:23:06 GMT
"But the worst enemy you can meet will always be yourself; you lie in wait for yourself in caverns and forests. Lonely one, you are going the way to yourself! And your way goes past yourself, and past your seven devils! You will be a heretic to yourself and witch and soothsayer and fool and doubter and unholy one and villain. You must be ready to burn yourself in your own flame; how could you rise anew if you have not first become ashes?"
-Friedrich Nietzsche, Thus Spoke Zarathustra 🔥
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Post by Admin on Sept 29, 2020 18:00:40 GMT
i don't categorically know who i am? i tend to the view that we are spiritual Beings / incarnated souls having a human experience - i just try my best to be kind & peaceful, of service to others / life & try my best to be a decent person. i think i do have a long term / severe mental illness The schizophrenia diagnosis does make sense to me on one level But then of course it goes into all the controversy / debate about psychiatry, labelling theory & what all these experiences / conditions really are. i wonder if there is any point in taking any one opinion / position over another on anything - or seeing anything as 'good & bad' - it all just is. “Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I'll meet you there. When the soul lies down in that grass the world is too full to talk about.” ― Rumi I don't know who I am either Admin. I've been called a psychopath and personality disordered, the latest one is that I am a man trying to harass women online, which did make me laugh at the time. Plenty of armchair psychiatrists out there but it's only a problem when you start to believe all the negative stuff yourself and it affects your health. A lot of people, especially online, have their own mh issues, and other things going on that make them say what they do. No one is perfect. People believe what they want to believe, is all I can say. Everyone has an opinion, but opinions are not really much use - there are facts, and then points of view. The fact is you are suffering and you need a psychiatric diagnosis to exist, to receive money from the state to live. Probably best to stick with practical realities first and everything else is secondary. Because without facts and some kind of consensus reality you're just left with opinions that it's currently probably impossible to categorically prove are correct or incorrect. You know you can't live without the medication, for whatever reason. You can't change the past, and there are plenty of what ifs we can all ponder on, but if we can't do anything about the what ifs, and the moment to test them out is gone, all that we have left is the now and the future. I have had to do this with the meds I am on now, I am pretty sure if I had tried harder earlier on and come off them years ago I might not be dependent on them now, and I certainly wouldn't have agreed to take antipsychotics for a neurotic disorder. I just have to accept that am dependent on antipsychotics now, even if I should never have been on them in the first place, and have to accept my part in that, as the article above seems to be encouraging. It certainly isn't all my fault that I am stuck on them either, but I can't deny my life choices have something to do with it. Can't keep going over it though, just have to move on and educating yourself more on all the perspectives is helpful, but is probably not best to argue about it with others online; what is best is to educate others on the full picture re drugs and every other treatment going, which is what you do on here with the forum. Presenting the established facts is best; let others come to their own conclusions, as everyone is different and reacts differently to treatments anyway. Thank you - yes - this is true - that i am suffering & need the diagnosis & medication to survive. Not sure how much it's our fault or responsibility for all the ways that we have been treated by the wider society / system?
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Post by Admin on Sept 29, 2020 18:07:48 GMT
Thank you - yes - this is true - that i am suffering & need the diagnosis & medication to survive. Not sure how much it's our fault or responsibility for all the ways that we have been treated by the wider society / system? All the constant debate / argument around it all - especially when there are very real life & death implications to those arguments can be disturbing.
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